Focusing on the "what" of obedience and honor.
Most parenting techniques focus on "behavior modification"—getting a child to act a certain way through rewards or punishments. Tripp suggests this is superficial. If you change the behavior without reaching the heart, you are simply training a child in hypocrisy. Shepherding a Child's Heart by Tedd Trip
Ultimately, Tripp argues that the law (rules) cannot save a child. Only the Gospel can. By showing a child their failure to meet God's standard, parents point them toward their need for a Savior. Focusing on the "what" of obedience and honor